Dr Hubert Fleming has been the relationship columnist for the past few year here at Elites TV. We have received many emails for Dr. Hu asking advice about their relationships. Dr.Hu will continue to write his informative columns, however from time to time he will also answer your dating questions.
THIS WEEK'S DATING QUESTION
Dr. Hu. I am newly divorced and re-entering the dating world. I met a wonderful woman, she is vibrant, intelligent and beautiful. I want to ask her out, but I don't want to do the same old typical date. I'm looking for something that will leave her not only with a great impression of me but a memorable first date. What are your suggestions? Signed, Aaron T NY
Dear Aaron, The first date can be a deal breaker if not well thought out. If you are looking to surprise this woman with a special and memorable time, then you want to do something out of the norm, rather than the typical dinner and movie date. By the way, movies are a terrible first date. There’s minimal time to interact, as you both are staring at the screen. Save this one for a couple of dates later, when you both know you like being with each other.
Here are a few of my personal favorite first dates that will make this woman certainly never forget you or the date.
FIRST DATE IDEAS:
Key first date rule: avoid significant commitments. Going camping for the weekend with a group of friends on a date is NOT good! Even if you do like camping, you may not like the person, so need first date venues that give you a quick out, yet, are fun.
Creative examples:
1. My number one favorite is the zoo. Guaranteed, you both can find furry creatures that you can bond with.
2. Picnics are really great! Very good one on one time, yet public enough for her to feel secure with you.
3. Walks, in reasonably public places. Take offs on this are roller blading, jogging, or biking together. I wouldn’t recommend jogging unless you know that she’s athletic. Otherwise, she may feel stressed, not a good thing for you!
4. Hot air balloon rides work for me as well... Fairly short, but still 1 on 1.
5. Flying a kite in the park!
6. Sporting events, with or without friends. Doesn't require lots of one on one focus, so can be easy, minimal stress. Avoid this one if she’s clearly sports-phobic, or if you’re a sport-aholic, and will spend all of your time focused on your team and not her.
7. Avoid theater. Way too focused on the event, no ability to interact.
8. Amusement park can be great to bring out the little kid in her.
9. The aquarium, if your area has one. Lots of dark, together areas!
10. Wall climbing if she’s very athletic. Avoid outdoor rock climbing unless she’s an absolute expert. You don’t want her remembering you as the guy that gave her the torn nails or scraped knees!
11. Bumper cars/ go carts are a must do!
12. Shooting range- but only if you trust her!
13. Dance lessons- a group lesson in latin or ballroom works wonders! Even for your second, through one hundredth date.
14. The pet store, if you’re looking for a pet.
15. Furniture shopping for your place. She’ll love to help, and feel closer to you for asking her opinion.
16. The relationship section of your favorite book store might sound good, but probably is best kept for another time!
17. Shooting pool is usually a winner, particularly if she’s competitive.
18. Your company picnic or event is not good. Way too much pressure for her, and potentially not good marks for you from your fellow workers.
19. Sailing, particularly if you have your own boat, is always a winner! If not, paddle boating around the lake works pretty well too.
20. Weekends in Cancun should probably wait till later! But, if your date is going well, you might broach the subject for future interest.
Good Luck and please inform me and the readers how the date went!
Please email your questions to: drflemingetv@yahoo.com or through his website: www.drhufleming.com
